Happy Chinese New Year...

Enough said.

Enjoy the holidays.

Talk is cheap ...

That's the general consensus.
We like to put our opinion on things regardless of whether the said subject wants it or not.
It is (in a sense) our god given right to spew thoughts out continuously without holding back the possibility that we are actually rushing into judgment before all the facts are collected.
Which is exactly what I am doing now as well.

Or am I?

I have been told in numerous occasions (almost every single time I open my mouth) that I am too opinionated in my viewing of the world and its inhabitants.
There is just too much "negativity" that I push upon others and it causes them to feel ... uncomfortable.
As it is my nature to listen as much as I talk (which is a lot), I decided some time ago that I shall keep my silence until I am convinced that the other party really wants to hear what I have to say.
I actually warn them by saying "Do you really want to know what I think? I am known for my scathing tongue. And I might still want you as a friend when I am done sharing"

They persist of course to convince me that they are ready for my take on the truth.
And as always, they aren't totally ready.
It usually ends up with them not talking to me for at least a few weeks before they reappear before me again as a socialable individual.
We talk and I will not bring up the "conversation" we had again, even if they prod me to.

Why won't I talk about it?
Is it because I am angry?
Or is it because I think they are not ready to listen the same truth so soon after the last event?

The truth is? None of the above.

I believe that once something is said, it is already out there.
They should actually be able to digest it and come out with a better question or answer.
I rarely like to talk about the same issue multiple times with the same person from the same point of view.
In my mind, conversations should evolve.
Perspectives should be changed as better understanding is obtained.

But if the individual is harping on the same point again and again, that means that they have not properly embrace and understood the subject matter at all.
What is the point in discussing on why is life treating you unfairly when you don't understand that the problem resides in your own actions.
The path we choose changes when we walk upon it.
The scenery, the people, the events all differs when we actually move forward.
Looking back, we try to learn and absorb the lessons that was imbued within it.
Thus allowing the next step to be slightly different and hopefully better aligned to our meaning in life.

Am I forming opinions before I understand the whole story myself?
Too judgmental about what is right and wrong?
You may be right and I appreciate the candidness.
And because of that I chose to move forward and incorporate more insight into my decisions.
We agree to disagree.

If you ask me what is the secret to success today.
I will tell you that I don't know
I am not looking for success in my life.
Instead I am investing all that I am into living a life of no regrets.

Typically slanting ...

The thing about beauty is that we all like the exotic version. Or should I say the one that is different from our "safe zones".

It does not mean we would take them home to mama but we would not mind flirting with them a little.

Ok, maybe it's just me and a selected few, but that number is no push over either. We have clubs, secret hand shakes and the whole works. We call them cultural exchange.

Now there are those that call us weirdos and racist but that's because these individuals are not confident in themselves. They need the familiar to feel safe. I can't blame them. It is exciting territory.

So here is me throwing a bone to those who like a little oriental variety. They might be small but they bite. Keep your fingers nimble.

PS:

In case there are those who are offended by my words, know that I aim to make smiles, but I am not going to loose sleep over your fragile reality chips.

Happy New Year.

Hazelnut...

It's been a while since I last heard from a certain nutty someone. She has been sane for a good long while and have been traveling around again. Her postcards do end up on my notice board reminding me her current state of being.

So I thought I would just do the same for her here.

I am fine.

Doing well.

All is dandy.

Love you lots and hope you enjoy life as well.

Toodle do.